Posted: 2022-05-06 22:46:33 Modified: 06/05/2022 22:45:03 Like about 25% of women/childbearers, I also experienced pregnancy loss....
Posted: 2022-05-06 22:46:33
Modified: 06/05/2022 22:45:03
Like about 25% of women/childbearers, I also experienced pregnancy loss. It’s great that for women who have been counseled or supposed to suppress their grief, an organization exists to help them.
Personally, I didn’t need or want public or group support, then or now, over 30 years later. Miscarriages like mine, in the early to mid first trimester, don’t even seem remotely comparable to a late miscarriage or stillbirth. At the time, older relatives told me briefly about their experiences of early miscarriages – in particular, I remember my aunt and stepmother comforting me. It was enough and appreciated.
I write this to emphasize that no one should feel uncomfortable if they prefer their privacy and have no desire to fundraise, run, meet or bond over a loss. of pregnancy. Very often, in our sincere effort to recognize losses, we create a new problem of prescribing what one is supposed to feel. It reminds me a lot of adoption where the adult adoptee is supposed to need and want a reunion with biological parents, a normative narrative constantly pressed in the media, factual and fictional. In fact, many adult adoptees don’t want this, and are told that they are “denying their truth.”
Everyone has their own way of dealing with their personal story – no homework or homework.
Julie Zuckman
Florence
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